Whenever possible, it is ideal for mourners themselves to take on the obligations of saying Kaddish in synagogue three times daily, learning Mishnah, and saying Yizkor at the proper times.  If you are able and willing to do these – wonderful! Use our resources and contact us if you need help figuring out what to do and how.

However, for a variety of reasons, this isn’t always possible. In today’s busy world, many mourners cannot commit to ‘doing the right thing’ on a regular basis for their loved ones, as much as they’d like to. In cases like these, provides you a much-needed option – performing the prayers and rituals for the soul of the departed, on your behalf.

How can you pray/study for my deceased relative?  First of all, all Jews are connected. We share a heritage, a homeland, and a history. We celebrate together and mourn together. When Jews are in danger in Russia, American Jews step forward to help. When something happens in Israel, Jews from around the world are concerned, worried, and pour out their hearts in prayer.  We have been one big family - for thousands of years. Furthermore, in this case the connection is even closer: you are arranging for us to pray/study for the deceased on your behalf. So although life is busy and you cannot be there every day, you are involved in what is going on – it is almost as if you are performing the prayer/study yourself.

Why do I pay for you to pray? There are two main reasons why mourners pay for the various services listed here;

(1) Practical: These activities take time and commitment. Undertaking them is a serious responsibility. We work with honest and responsible members of the community who take on the commitment with sincerity and integrity. The same reasons why many mourners feel that they cannot take on the responsibility themselves (too difficult, too hard to arrange, too much of a commitment…) are the same reasons we provide a small stipend to enable our team to do it – and do it right – day in, day out;

(2) Spiritual: Interestingly, in our tradition, when a mourner cannot say Kaddish or learn Mishnah for the deceased, it is better to pay for this service than to somehow have it arranged for free. Consider that, "If the deceased has no relatives to recite Kaddish for him, someone should be hired to do so. It brings more merit to the deceased if the person takes payment than if he does not" (Mourning in Halachah, p.362, ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications, Ltd.). One way of understanding this is that a large part of the real merit for deceased in the Kaddish and Mishnah study is not the words of prayer or study themselves – as much as those are beautiful and important – but actually the effort  put in by the mourner themselves. In other words, I am helping the memory of the deceased by investing my time into being a better Jew and making the world a better place. If I cannot donate my time, at least I can donate some money to show that I take the soul seriously.

Kaddish Recital
Surrogate Mishnah Study
Yizkor Service

Kaddish Recital

Death of a loved one is a loss to the family and the world. A little less G-dliness is visible. We therefore counteract the loss by saying extra prayers focusing on making His presence (and name) more known in the world. Saying Kaddish yourself for your loved one is a privilege and a responsibility. We encourage you to do it yourself if possible. If not, we can arrange to have upstanding members of the Jewish community do it for you.

Kaddish Recital during the first year after passing

Three Times Daily $1000
Once Daily $365

Kaddish Recital recital after the first year of passing

Three Times on the yahrtzeit day (anniversary of passing) $36
One time on the yahrtzeit day (anniversary of passing) $18

Kaddish TranslationKaddish translation and transliteration

Mishnah Study

Many family members want to give their departed loved ones the merit of Mishnah study, but cannot or don’t know how to study Mishnah.  In these cases, we can arrange for a Torah scholar to undertake this extra study on your behalf:

When the course of study is almost finished, the family can study the conclusion of the section together with the scholar at a convenient time over the phone. Upon completion, this significant achievement is commemorated with a beautiful certificate.

Mishnah Study

Mishnah Study $180

Yizkor Service

Yizkor, a unique prayer set aside for the benefit of the souls of those who have passed on to the next world, is recited on designated Jewish holidays throughout the year.  Traditionally, Yizkor is recited by children on behalf of their departed parents and also by family members on behalf of lost relatives. If you cannot do so, we will arrange for upstanding members of the community to say the prayers on your behalf.  

Yizkor Recital

On Yom Kippur ? $72
On the four designated holidays? $180

Kaddish TranslationYizkor translation and transliteration

Total: $

At JewishDeathAndMourning, we recognize every individual as a unique and singular personality. Contact us at 888-6-KADDISH to customize a a course of prayer and study specific to your particular, individualized needs.

All contributions are tax deductible.

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